Mindfulness is a way of purposefully “paying attention” in the present moment, non-judgmentally. It stems from Eastern philosophy, however is used by many people today to improve their general wellbeing.

Mindfulness can be very helpful with sexual difficulties, as when our mind “wanders” away from the present moment it can distract from sexual pleasure.

If you’re thinking about how your body looks or worrying about performance whilst trying to have sex – it wouldn’t be surprising that you didn’t enjoy the sex!

If you would like to try mindfulness, as a general strategy during the day, or whilst having sex, these resources may be helpful:

www.freemindfulness.org   – free mindful meditation and breathing exercises available for download.

www.mindfulness-meditation-now.com – information about mindful meditation, 8 week course, and free guided three-step meditation exercise by Anna Black.

www.bemindfulonline.com  – 4 week online mindfulness course consisting of video training sessions, guided mediation audio downloads, and practice assignments.

www.breathworks-mindfulness.org.uk/online-courses – several online and London-based mindfulness courses for stress and health-related problems.

Mindfulness apps include: Headspace, Calm, The Mindfulness App, Aware, Wildflowers Mindfulness, and Mindfulness Guide.

Also see leaflets on mindful masturbation for those with a penis or vulva.